“You feel more in control when you are doing something you want to do”

When we are doing something we want to do, we are more likely to be motivated, engaged, and focused. This can lead to a feeling of greater control over our own actions and outcomes. There are a few reasons for this. First, when we are doing something we enjoy, we are more likely to be …

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Expectations

We live in a sea of expectations 11/17 Children feel comfortable when they behave in the way they feel they are expected to behave. That is to say in their childhood interpretation of the expectations of their care givers.  And they develop unconscious coping strategies to gain approval and praise. But when children become adults …

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How important to trainee counsellors is working with real clients?

Working with real clients is crucial for trainee counselors for several reasons: While theoretical knowledge is essential, the practical experience gained from working with real clients is indispensable for the development of competent and effective counsellors. Many counselling programs include supervised clinical placements or internships to ensure that trainees have the opportunity to apply their …

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“Don’t minimise the things that hurt me, just acknowledge my pain”

There are times when you’re upset and looking for validation of your feelings, rather than having them put to one side and minimised. It’s important for those around you to empathise and validate your emotions so you can feel supported. If you’re going through a difficult time or have experienced something painful, it’s perfectly reasonable …

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A talented life is a troubled life.

The idea that a talented life is a troubled life is a subjective and often debated concept. It suggests that individuals with great talent or exceptional abilities may also face significant challenges or difficulties in their lives. There are a few different perspectives on this notion: On the other hand, it’s important to remember that …

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“The best way to understand yourself is to help others to understand themselves.”

The statement carries a profound truth. Helping others to understand themselves can indeed be an effective and enlightening way to gain a deeper understanding of yourself. There are several reasons why this is the case: 1. Empathy and perspective: When you help others to understand themselves, you naturally put yourself in their shoes and attempt …

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relationships are less about what people think about than how they feel about you.

Relationships are less about what people think about you than how they feel about you. Relationships are deeply rooted in emotions and feelings rather than just external perceptions or opinions. Here are some key points to consider: Overall, while external opinions and perceptions can influence a relationship to some extent, what truly matters is the …

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The problem with feelings is when you try and  talk about them they try and stop you.

Sometimes you feel stuck and unable to talk about your feelings. It’s important to know that you’re not alone in this. Many people struggle with expressing their emotions, for a variety of reasons. Here are some possible reasons why feelings might stop you from talking: * Fear of judgment. You might be afraid of being …

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Values

You create your values to protect yourself from your fears 01/21 It would be fair to say our values are the boundaries we have adopted to fit in and be accepted by society. They are socially constructed and as such do not belong to us but our tribe. The twin fears of fight or flee …

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