Emotions

How a Therapist Can help you to Access the Unconscious

Listening Between the Lines: How Counsellors Can Help Clients Hear Their Unconscious In the early stages of training, counsellors often focus on the fundamentals: building rapport, reflecting feelings, and staying in the client’s frame of reference. But as your experience deepens, you may begin to notice that what a client says is often only part …

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What Can You Do When, as a Man, Everything You Say Makes Things Worse?

Maybe your partner accuses you of not listening, even though you are. You try to explain your point, and they get more upset. You apologise, but they say you’re being sarcastic. You try silence, and they accuse you of shutting down. You feel stuck, helpless, and misunderstood — like every word you utter is a …

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“Don’t minimise the things that hurt me, just acknowledge my pain”

There are times when you’re upset and looking for validation of your feelings, rather than having them put to one side and minimised. It’s important for those around you to empathise and validate your emotions so you can feel supported. If you’re going through a difficult time or have experienced something painful, it’s perfectly reasonable …

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“You feel more in control when you are doing something you want to do”

When we are doing something we want to do, we are more likely to be motivated, engaged, and focused. This can lead to a feeling of greater control over our own actions and outcomes. There are a few reasons for this. First, when we are doing something we enjoy, we are more likely to be …

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“The best way to understand yourself is to help others to understand themselves.”

The statement carries a profound truth. Helping others to understand themselves can indeed be an effective and enlightening way to gain a deeper understanding of yourself. There are several reasons why this is the case: 1. Empathy and perspective: When you help others to understand themselves, you naturally put yourself in their shoes and attempt …

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relationships are less about what people think about than how they feel about you.

Relationships are less about what people think about you than how they feel about you. Relationships are deeply rooted in emotions and feelings rather than just external perceptions or opinions. Here are some key points to consider: Overall, while external opinions and perceptions can influence a relationship to some extent, what truly matters is the …

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The problem with feelings is when you try and  talk about them they try and stop you.

Sometimes you feel stuck and unable to talk about your feelings. It’s important to know that you’re not alone in this. Many people struggle with expressing their emotions, for a variety of reasons. Here are some possible reasons why feelings might stop you from talking: * Fear of judgment. You might be afraid of being …

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